Transmuting Energy for Empaths
As an empath, you have the incredible gift of taking in and transmuting energy like nobody’s business. You’re like the super hero when it comes to sensing the right next step to get you where you want to be or align with the right people, places and things to seemingly manifest out of nowhere. The challenge my lovely empathic friend, is to understand how to work this energy. This is what I’ve spent my life trying to figure out.
There are many theories out there on how you can protect your energy, I too have theories—but ultimately you just have to try them on and see if they work for you. This journey is like many, you must learn to connect to your Inner Guide, your inner knowing—which you are remarkably skilled at already; however, the twist for you is recognizing and trusting your intuition and what you feel.
The problem is that the mental program you’re running on can really get in your way and complicate things. I feel like many empaths struggle with feelings of worthiness and deserving. Much of this stems from our childhood as we were developing these super powers and our ability to “know” what we needed to do to make a parent or elder feel better. If this young empath grew up in an environment that didn’t encourage our little selves to explore our own feelings, then we learned how to disassociate from our own feelings and needs to appease those around us. It was as if we became separate from our own needs and feelings, so that we can care for others. It was during this time that we empaths didn’t learn the difference between other’s feelings and our own. The energetic boundary was not formed or identified with and so we grew up unaware that we could actually separate ourselves from the feeling of others, observe them, use them if we wanted to or not and be on our way .
Before we begin, let’s explore what it mean to be an empath. This a person highly aware of the emotions of those around them, to the point of feeling those emotions themselves. As an empath you can also feel when someone is uncomfortable with their feelings, such as suppressed emotions that someone may have, yet is afraid to go into the basement to do the shadow work.
Empaths experience the world differently than other people. As an empath, you are hyper aware of others pain, suffering and what is needed for them on the emotional level. I also personally feel that in my experience as an empath, I was also prone to codependent friendships and relationships. As I was so attended to the other’s pain, I often feel it was up to me to heal them. (It’s not your responsibility by the way—just saying this in case you’re reading it and thinking this sounds like you. More on that later.)
According to Dr. Judith Orloff, author of The Empath’s Survival Guide, empaths can feel physical pain, too. Have you ever interacted with a friend that is suffering from a headache, and out of no where you develop a headache too? Or perhaps you’re around someone feeling chest pains from anxiety, and you too start to feel this same way. I have found that after leaving this person, as in moving on to something else in my day, I feel remnants of this person’s energy. I have a headache and I feel like where did this come from? Or I feel suddenly dissatisfied with life and I can’t understand why I feel so depressed all of the sudden.
Empaths can often sense someone’s intentions. It’s as if you just know this person is not someone you should be around.
Empaths can also pick up on the history of someone, such as their journey and the troubles they may have endued along the way. Somehow there is almost an extra sense of things without words.
I have found that it took me years to fully understand what was happening to me. In the last decade the word “empath” is more common place thankfully. I remember hearing other people tell me that this is a gift but I feel so disempowered by it. I didn’t like feeling things I didn’t want to feel, like this sponge soaking up the pain and experiences of others.
Being an empath isn’t just pain and problem though. There are also great feelings empath enjoy as well—such as the feeling of victory after over coming a challenge, the feelings of falling in love, gratitude for a healing, and so on.
Even as an experienced empath, I still have “floating feelings” I pick up out oof non where but the thing that has empowered me the most if understanding my baseline.
As an empath, it’s so very important to understand when you are not in YOUR vibration. Meaning, when you feel out of sorts and just not like yourself or thinking like you typically do, when you mindset is shifted and you find you thinking has changed, you may have picked up someone else’s stuff.
How do you deal with this? More on tomorrow’s podcast.
For now, take out your journal and think on the questions below:
Are there movements when you feel like you took on someone’s emotions even when they aren’t talking about them? Do you find yourself wanting to fix or heal the situation for them because you sense exactly what is needed to do so? Write on this and give some examples.
What are your experiences like in large crowds? Do you find that you pick up feelings out of no where?
How do you feel in your surroundings? Is your environment at work and at home important to you, such as the vibe of an environment?
Speaking of environment, outside of your physical space, do you find that the energies of those you work with impact you? If so, how and where you able to control picking up those energies and making them your own?
Are you able to intuitively sense someone’s history and empathize with them?
Do people turn to you for advice as see you as someone they can confide in? Do you feel drained after these conversations? How do you take care of your energy when this happens?
Can you sense when someone is lying to you? How do you respond to this situation? Do you listen to your instincts or ignore them? No judgment, just allow yourself to uncover whatever surfaces.
You have conflict with poor leaders, meaning your ideas of how someone should lead their team at work comes up a lot for you. Give yourself some examples of this and explore it.
Do violent movies, television, news has a strong impact on you? When you see others suffer, you feel the suffering too.
Do your relationships, especially love relationships, go very deep? As in your feelings easily enmesh with your partners and it can at times feel overwhelming?
Lastly, do you ever have the feeling that you just know what you pets are feeling? Same goes for your plants, can you sense when they need watering? (Throwing this one in just based on my own personal experience lol.)
These questions are here to help you on your inward journey as an empath. We will explore more on the podcast tomorrow—including how I’ve learned to separate myself from the flood of feelings I relieve on a daily basis as a New Yorker and also how you can transmute the energy you pick up to boost your manifestations.
XOXOCM
